Recomended age for relationships

[bambizzle]

what do you reckon should be the recomended age different between 2 people going out? 1 year, 2 years, whatever. what i basically mean is, a 16 year old with a 14 year old is sort-of acceptable, but a 17 year old with a 14 year old is just wrong right?

[BleedBlack]

maybe when it's as young as 14 it does matter because they arn't as mature as the older person, but i don't think it's wrong for a 17 year old to be with a 14 year old, maybe an 18 & 14 year old is.
if both r mature enough for the relationship then i don't think age should matter.

[Mamfy]

I think 2 years is enough. When it's 3 it gets difficult. I mean, no offence, but it's a bit weird an 18 year old with a 14 year old. THey might get into all sorts of problems. The 14 year old is 2 years under the legal age for sex, the 18 year old is 2 years over. I'm sure the 18 year old would want to be having sex and going out drinking and clubbing at that age but the 14 year old couldnt. I think 2 years is enough.

[Bob!]

Below 20 if theres an age gap its best at 2 years at the max really, almost up to 3 if its REALLY worth it, other then that then its not gud.

When both are over 20 then age gaps really dont seem as big lol, jus when in teens, its best keepin em small as poss.

[*fender.chiq*]

Same as Bob really.

I've been out with a guy who was 16 at the time, he's nearly 17 now. Even though older guys seem more mature, it's hard, because the older they are, the more intent they are on having sex, because it's legal for them. I know they say 'Oh, you should be ok with an older guy, because if he respects your choices, then you're fine.' But for me, if the guy wants to have sex, he'll have it. Either with cheating or banging his girlfriend. Most girls I know don't really care tbh. They seem to think the older a guy is, the more experienced he so, so better for it. But I think, if a girl goes out with an older guy, she has to accept that he's going to want to have sexual relations, whether it being full on sex or not. It's up to the girl to choose what she does if she goes out with him, but a lot just do whatever the guy wants.

But yeah, 2 at the most, 3 if it's really really worth it! Becausethe younger you are, the bigger difference a year makes.

[~sexy_biatch~]

Right lol...me and my best mate have said this since we were like 13:
when your 14, oldest you should go is 16, and youngest 14. (for the girls)
visa versa for boys!
when your 15: 16-18 year olds (we didnt say 15-18 as boys that age were so imature that we knew)
when your 16: i still agree with this, i would go for 16-19 year olds!!

[kattylover]

I don't think age matters between two people. My dad is 10 years older than my mum!! And some girls are older than guys when they date together. As long as you are happy with each other. :)

[Mamfy]

That's not the point though. When you get past a certain stage in your life, when you are much older and mature enough to make decisions it doesn't really matter the age. When you are 14, 10 years difference in a relationship is way too big. Whereas if you are 40 then it's a completely different story.

MY friends mum is about 42 and her partner has retired and is like 67 or something so...meh:P

[~sexy_biatch~]

Yeah i agree with that, once you get past a certain age it doesnt matter......although i dont think i'd go with a guy more than in the year below me at school!
One of my ex's was like 2 months younger than me.

[bambizzle]

one of my best mates is 16 and hes with a 20 year old single mum, so like kattylover said as long as your happy...

[dqNick]

yep as long as your happy it dont matta! people will care when your young but when your in your 20-30 it wont matter

[jesus'_bright_red_pants]

Put it this way. I am 16, the youngest I would go out with is 15 and the oldest probably 20. I think girls do tend to like older guys though.

[bambizzle]

me - 16
the youngest id go for - 14
the oldest id go for - 18

2 years either way, its all good

[Mamfy]

I'm 15, I'd go for no younger than 14, and 15-16 or 17 probably

[xXxI.Got.Them.Emo.EyesxXx]

I'm 17.

The youngest I'd go for EVER would be 15...and that's pushing it.
Oldest would have to be 23+.

[pressure]

lol jus been having the same discussion on another board

i think that guys can go out with girls younger than them, but only 2/3 years younger
i wouldnt go out with a guy younger than me, theres loadsa reasons why, its jus something i wouldnt do

you lot are all talking about guys and girls who are still young like 16 or something
think about all the other people who, like FUZZUM said, are married with loads of years between them

as far as young people go girls shouldnt go out with guys younger than they are!!!!
guys can go out with girls who are 2 years younger than them

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iv been going out with my bf now for a year and a half

we met when i was 16 (for jus 2 days lol) and he had jus turned 18
most ppl on the other board have a problem with that becasuse we were these ages when we started having sex !!

theres my two cents anyway lol

[Patriot1776]

I believe that in hte long run it doesn't really matter,but I do think that when you have these 80-year-old men with 20-year-old women it is stretching it.

[Mamfy]

Thats just a slight exaggeration isn't it patriot?:P

[*fender.chiq*]

Mamfy, google the world's oldest but richest men and see who their partners are..

[hevence]

im 18 and my partner is 22 and we are happy i dont think age matters unless your really young!

[bambizzle]

as long as one of the partners isnt under 18, its alright for adults to have a large age gap i think

[EssixOwl]

I'm 18 & I wouldn't touch anybody under 16...legalities & all....17yr olds though, maybe, if they were mature enough & oldest probably around 29

[sponge27]

im sixteen and i would go out with a 15 year old but woudnt have sex with them untill they was 16 like i go out with a 15 year old called hayley but i dont think i would have sex plus i have 2 kids as it is

[Mamfy]

You have two kids at 16?

[Da Chang Gang]

I don't think that a 16 year old and a 14 year old would be so great. Neither a 14 year old with a 17 year old. It will be awkward for me, that's all I know. But it really depends on the relationship I guess. And gender is all a key thing in this.

[lozzy]

i fink there should be a 2 or 3 year age gap like a 12 and 14 year old or a 14 and 16 year old but i think the lads should be the older ones!i know a 12year old hu goes out wiv a 18year old!

[bambizzle]

thats slightly wrong....

[iloveroddy]

yeah .. well i think that 2 years is enough like 17 and 14 is ooushing it a little but if they are both happy then it's ok but just make sure they are both being careful because having under age sex and gettin pregnant is bad .. i know from personal experiences ..

"...she drew a heart upton his paper cup but the crayon faded..."

emer hearts roddy ...

[NeverEndingGame]

so what about say, a 15 yr old girl and a 13 yr old boy? Personally i'm not sure. The other way around would be okay i think... girls tend to mature quicker than boys anyway

[GemmaJamPot]

I think it really depends on the individuals tbh...

Im 17 and my boyfriend is 20. My parents have a 3 year gap. My Nana had a 7 year gap.
I knew a couple where the woman was like 25 and the guy was like 65, and they got together when she was like 14... which is sick, but they were together about 12 years. They had 2 kids together too. Ewww eww ewww. They are the reason why my Mum went on Trisha, lol...

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[KatieMay-]

wow your mum went on trisha? :D love watching that show lol :)

I'm just turned 17 and wouldn't dare touch a lad more than a year younger than me.
It jst doesn't seem right to me.

[GemmaJamPot]

Hehe, yeah she did... she was friends with the people with the huge age gap, but went on to pretent to oppose it. It was funny :D

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[-Luke-]

I think relationships are difficult before 18, lol. There are so many views on it. If both are under 18, then the closer they are in terms of age would seem most appropriate. If one is 18 or over, then the other half should be around 1 year younger. Over 18 and its up to them, they are both adults so they are in charge of their lives.
My girlfriend and i are both 18, with her being 7 months younger and we've been out for a good 2 1/2 years now.

[sexee_katee]

my bf is 5 years older than me, and there's no problems at all. i mean, it might be different for some people, but for us, it's fine.

[whereisit]

Yeah the usually the rule is to go out only with people within a year or two of your age, depending on what your age is.
Only because maturity differs alot.

However there are always those exceptions that are very mature, and grown-up at a younger age (usually due to bad events in their childhood). If there was an 18-year old wanting to date one of these 15 year old exceptions, I'd be fine with it.